This Doesn’t Work for Me!

“This doesn’t work for me!”

Have you found yourself saying or thinking this?

Perhaps you started a new program or a new online business or bought into an online “business in a box” and you’ve come to the point where you are saying this … “it doesn’t work for me!”

Don’t Quit … please read on … very important …

A friend and mentor shared this just recently – it is one of the most honest and down to earth posts from a friend about to quit

There is no doubt It will resonate with many people out there and if you recognise yourself in it (we all can) or you know someone who would benefit from reading it please share it.
“It seems like it is all there, the dream system, everything you need, right?

So I did some digging to figure out what was missing, that one missing ingredient that caused this massive failure…..and I finally found it.

Its ME! Yep Me!”

For a whole year this person hadn’t done a thing. No solo ads.  No FaceBook ads.  No email follow up… Nothing, zilch, zero… they were a complete lump on a log, did nothing yet hoped for the best.

“You see there is nothing wrong with this system, the only thing wrong is me.

If you have been struggling with this system, or any system for that matter, then the problem is likely you too.

The thing that is missing is MY ACTION.

No Action = No Results. Duh.

It wasn’t the system’s fault, it was my fault. You see all these other people making sales, doing great, but others not so much. Well I will put money on it that they also took none to very little action. Now I am not saying action would have made me a millionaire over night, but I would have been closer than I am today.

So why didn’t I take any action? Well I told myself all sort of things:    
I’m a slave to analysis paralysis, family issues, busy at work, focusing on eCom, no… CPA, no… bitcoin, no… MLM, no.. red-headed chihuahua breeder, no… 2-ring circus promoter…… so many excuses, so scattered, always chasing the shiny object.

Yeah this is what I told myself, but then I dug even deeper ‘cause all that is just excuses. what was the real reason I didn’t take any action?

In reality I have been buying my way through the internet looking for the so-called holy grail for several years. I have spent way more than I want to admit, maybe more than I did for my bachelors and two masters degrees combined. Opportunity after opportunity, training after training, tool after tool. Yet before the ink was dry on the payment I was looking for the next.

Why? Why would I spend tens upon tens of thousands of dollars on all these but not run some simple ads? Good question, i wish there was a Shiny Object Buyers Anonymous support group, … maybe I will start one. But I needed deep introspection, so I dug deeper…..

And I think I finally found it. Ta Da!!!!

Quite simple actually – I was riding high on hope, and protecting myself from failure.

But it isn’t quite what you are thinking. I wasn’t afraid of failure itself, but what failure meant for my dreams. You see I am an eternal optimist, I always believe things will work out in the end, I am a dreamer and see hope in my life and the world. So if I am to actually execute on these systems and trainings, and it doesn’t work, it isn’t just that it didn’t work, but it means my dreams are crushed. And there is nothing worse to an eternal optimist than crushed dreams. So I was buying on the hope that the systems and products promised, but not executing to prevent the hope from being extinguished. This was ever so evident in the fact that I bought a grand worth of solo ads, but never actually sent them. How stupid is that? I got to the point of buying hope of a great solo, but didn’t send anything for fear of it being a dream crusher.

I know it sounds stupid, it is a sickness really. But as they say in every 12 step program the first step is acknowledgement. Now that I really understand and have acknowledged the problem, I can take steps to fix it.

So I am turning off almost all emails, leaving tons of FB groups, focusing on taking action on all the systems and tools in my arsenal. Any new ideas will be tabled, until current projects are fulfilled. I will be reaching out on those solos I bought to send them to our promotions.

In conclusion. I re-state my first Statement.

The System doesn’t work for me! Because I don’t work the System.

Systems don’t fail, people do, and I did. If you are struggling look in the mirror before you blame the system”

I am sure many of you out there can identify with the story above.   I certainly can.   If we are honest, we all can in one or other way.

So, today I urge you to take constructive and positive action to achieve the dream you have.  You can do it!

Reach out to me any further questions.

To your success

 

Work with Day Ashton

Dailene Ashton (aka Day Ashton)

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(with thanks to Chris & Susan Beesley for sharing the original post)

Guess who else struggled with consistency?

People from all walks of life experience this problem at one point or another.   Some great leaders and sports persons that I can think of found that it can be difficult to be consistent.  But … in order to succeed, no matter if it is your business, career, sport, health and fitness, you need to be consistent.

Consistency involves regularity, being constant and stability.

Someone once said that consistency builds trust.   I agree.

Roger Federer said he had struggled with consistency early in his career.  But, look at him now, he is one of the most consistent and successful tennis players around.  Arsene Wenger one said: “When you look at people who are successful, you will find that they aren’t  the people who are motivated, but who have consistency in their motivation”.  Consistently motivated to be a success in whatever they do. Reaching their dreams, their goals.

Think about it – if your goal is to become fitter and you’ve neglected yourself for a good number of years.  One or two sessions at the local gym now and again will not produce the desired outcome!  You would need to commit to attending the gym regularly/consistently until you achieve your goal.  Stopping & starting will not get the desired result.

Millard Drexler one said: “People like consistency.  Whether it’s a store or a restaurant, they want to come in and see what you are famous for”

If you are trying to build your business – be it online or bricks & mortar – CONSISTENCY is vital.   What if you found a brand new little coffee shop in your area and they really had a fabulous range of coffee and other hot drinks along with home-baked rolls and out of the ordinary sandwiches and cakes, etc.  Cosy atmosphere and free wi-fi –  just a great place to be.  That would be brilliant.  But what if you wanted to pop in after the school-run or on a busy Saturday morning and the place was closed with a notice.  “Back again tomorrow” or “back in an hour”.  Or even if they were open but did not provide the products or service they were advertising, people would lose interest. Their reputation would falter and their business would not succeed.
If you have an online business, people have signed up to your newsletter or mailing list because they are interested in your service or product.   If you do not have regular follow-up by means of news, special offers, helpful hints and tips, something of value, they will lose interest.   Consistent marketing, consistently providing value is a must.
It isn’t easy, but it can be done and must be our modus operandi.   If we are committed to reaching our goal and consistent in striving to achieve it, we will succeed.

To sum up for now, to be successful online or any project, you need to be committed, consistent and coachable.   To find out more about coachability and get resources that will help you, subscribe to this blog and be sure not to miss important and helpful info

 

 

DAILENE ASHTON (aka DAY ASHTON)

Internet Marketer, Coach & Freelance Writer
Email: getworkingwithday@gmail.com
Skype: dayashton1

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